Tuesday, January 03, 2006

Manna from heaven?

The oddest thing has happened today.

I had to return to work after the long Christmas break, and had had a few realisations that I really am not at all happy in the new job.

I worked out over Christmas, what it is I found to be strange about the people I work with, and it's that there has been zero interest in me or my life outside of the job; no questions about my marital status, what my son does, family, nothing.

Now I have no need to be the centre of attention, and in fact, I quite like it when I am allowed to blend in and just get on with it.

But I have never come across such a disinterested bunch.

Nice enough, don't get me wrong, but just not truly personable. They are very into each other, with the shortest served time there being 4 years, and there really is no room for anyone else.

Anyway, I was really depressed for the last few days of the holiday, just dreading having to go back to this sterile environment - I can honestly say, I have rarely disliked a job so much. it wasn't only the cliqueiness of the people, it was also the content of the job - in a word, DULL. I'd been activley searching on the net most of the week, and planned that as soon as something less oppressive and rigid came along, I'd be gone.

I hate to let people down though, and after training me and all that, I would have felt bad.

I went in this morning with a heavy heart, knowing that this was to be my life 5 days a week for the foreseeable.

I did a couple of hours work, and then my boss asked to see me, along with the General Manager.

We sat down, and he confirmed everything I'd been feeling from the people I'd been working with, by saying that he did not feel I fitted in because I am 'too friendly'.

There was also some talk about me having been heard to swear at the Christmas party (which I have zero recognition of, but it turns out was just a very throw away comment to a colleague who was not the least offended, overheard by someone else who 'reported' it!) and that this could be sackable!
I accept this in some ways, but wonder how it holds up in comparison to the story that is legendary in the company, about the young fellow that has worked there for 4 years, who actually puked all over a table of drinks that the boss was sitting at, at one of the Christmas party's.
But the relevance of all that my social indiscretion entails is a bit of a mystery when all is said and done, and I'm fairly confident that this was thrown in the mix as a way of not making it seem like an unfair situation.....which as it turns out, I don't think it is!
I have been allowed to leave right away but can still expect to be paid for the next month, with a reference as to how 'helpful, hard-working and intelligent' I am, and I could not be happier!

I have been so uptight as to how I was going to get out of this sooner rather than later, and really felt I'd have to give it at least a year for the sake of fairness and the old CV.

The relief is just immense.

I already have an interview lined up for tomorrow morning, for a PA position at a very local Equestrian centre.

I'll only panic when and if it's time to panic, but as it stands, I am really happy with the way it's turned out so far!

I knew my big gob was going to do me good one of these days, and really, if being too friendly is what makes me not fit in with those Stepford style robots, that'll do for me.

13 Comments:

Blogger Name Witheld said...

Quite a surprise to read what happened to you, K. It sounds like you're too interesting for a bunch of seriously dull people.

To be honest, I think it really could be a blessing in disguise in the long term. Anyway, who wants to work for a company where you get reported for swearing at the Christmas party? I fucking don't!

Tuesday, January 03, 2006 10:13:00 PM  
Blogger Kayfer Kettle said...

Hello LPJ,

Quite right too!

The really weird thing though, is that they all swear on a daily basis, and I can can only assume that it was one of the company's more important guests at the party that overheard me.

But God, I'm glad!!

K x

Tuesday, January 03, 2006 10:40:00 PM  
Blogger Span Ows said...

Was it an undertakers Katey?...you laughing and smiling and joking with the bereaved?...hehehe, I know it wasn't and you're better off out...BUT make sure you get a good reference...maybe they could include the fact that you're very friendly!!!

...reported for swearing...seems like somebody was a bit jealous and stuck the knife in.

Wednesday, January 04, 2006 5:30:00 PM  
Blogger Kayfer Kettle said...

Spanish!

Oh now even I know that you don't titter around the bereaved!

As for them being jealous, thought that would be understandable (!!!!) i think it was more that they have all worked together for so long, that it's just a closed shop to anyone else.

Maybe they simply didn't like me, which is really ok with me!

K x

Wednesday, January 04, 2006 7:15:00 PM  
Blogger Linda Mason said...

Oeeer Kay. They dismissed you for not fitting in and for swearing at the Christmas party?!? How long have you worked there? Did you get a warning, verbal or written? I sniff unfair dismissal here and although you may be pleased to go, that shouldn't stop you from pursuing this if necessary.

I'm a great pursuer of injustices, ask my sister, who because I pushed and pushed and pushed and did the research and then got in touch with a lawyer specialising in employment law for her and then forced her to go, is now £13,000 better off. Mind she hasn't seen my commission yet!

I wish you positive beginnings for this new year.

Wednesday, January 04, 2006 10:33:00 PM  
Blogger Kayfer Kettle said...

Hiya Mags,

It really does stink doesn't it? But as I've only been there 6 weeks, I don't think there is alot I can do about it.

And really, I am just so pleased to not have to go there, and I have a great family that won't see me starve if I don't find a job immediately.

Thanks for your good wishes Mags, they really are much appreciated.

K xx

Wednesday, January 04, 2006 10:47:00 PM  
Blogger Crispin Heath said...

Happy New Year Kate

Sorry, but I had to laugh. You were so chirpy a couple of months ago and I knew it couldn't possibly have lasted. Didn't expect this though. Glad the feeling was mutual, I can't imagine working in a place where you had to not be yourself. It'd kill me to have to suppress my natural self. Hope the interview goes well.

By the way, if you want a little parting dig, I'm sure you could get them invetigated on that profit share scam they've got going.

Thursday, January 05, 2006 2:50:00 PM  
Blogger Kayfer Kettle said...

Hello Six,

It is funny really! But I'm a believer that you have to go into everything with a chirpy heart and see what happens.

I knew almost immediately that I hated it!

That'll learn me!

K x

Thursday, January 05, 2006 6:12:00 PM  
Blogger Lucy said...

How did the interview go?

'Too Friendly'?!
[doh] these emotionally constipated folk are a laugh ,not.

Thursday, January 05, 2006 11:38:00 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

A New Year ..a new start ...
I've always thought.. what's for you won't go by you ...

best wishes ...

Friday, January 06, 2006 12:07:00 AM  
Blogger Kayfer Kettle said...

Hiya Lucy,

Not bad, thanks for asking, though it is the single most backward office set-up I have ever seen!

It's a working farm office, so there is a layer of horse-dung dust on everything, including the mouthpiece of the phone!
They do all their boks by hand into ledger books even!!

Not sure about that one, but the search will continue......

Thanks for asking Lucy, very good of you.

K x

Friday, January 06, 2006 9:43:00 AM  
Blogger Kayfer Kettle said...

You know what Bonnie Lass?

I could not agree more.

I have never let myself get in a flap about jobs. Maybe I'm being arrogant and a tad naive, but if you want work, you can find it, and thus far I have never been unemplyed unless it was out of choice.

So, best foot forward eh?!

Thanks for your thoughts.

K x

Friday, January 06, 2006 9:46:00 AM  
Blogger Linda Mason said...

Shame about 6 weeks Kay, I love a good fight because I'm always right....and modest too as you can see! Good luck with the job hunting and have a good weekend.

Friday, January 06, 2006 10:26:00 PM  

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